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by Otter on 2005 Aug 22 - 22:20 | reply to this comment Ambivalence Would I feel comfortable telling them? Well no, probably not, but then I'm not much given to discussing very intimate details of my personal relationships anyway. I mean, relations with my husband have improved through us having a Taken In Hand relationship but I don't know that I'd want to go into details about it.

For instance, I was talking over with my best friend recently the fact that Dave and I get on a lot better these days, and I told her the truth, as far as it went: which was that I try harder not to do the things that annoy him, and he tries harder not to lose his temper with me when I do. And that's true. I didn't tell her any of the more personal details about it, I don't know how she'd react to it. "We're both more tolerant of each other" I said, and that is true. Could I say to her "I accept that he has the authority to tell me what to do, and to punish me if I don't do as I'm told"? I don't think I could.

There's a comment from Autumn earlier in this discussion where she says I think that there's going to be people who will be disapproving of certain things even if they are more commonly accepted. Even if Taken In Hand became more widely known and it was considered 'normal' for people to have this kind of relationship, you're still going to get people who'd be freaked out by it. I'd still be very cautious about who I talked to about it, even if the Taken In Hand book became a bestseller like 'The Surrendered Wife' or something.

That's what's so great about the Inernet, you can always find people who are interested in the things you're interested in, even when it's something that you didn't really know you were interested in, until you found it, as I found with this site.

by Louise C on 2005 Aug 23 - 06:09 | reply to this comment Another thought On the question of telling people about your relationship, there is again the fact of the wide variety of types of Taken In Hand relationships. I mean, I am strongly attracted by the idea of being in a male-led relationship, but I am always reading stuff on this site that totally freaks me out, so how much more so would a person with no inclination for a male-led relationship be disturbed or even revolted by some of the things that people engage in?

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